This brief guide will help to maximize the value you receive from your coaching.
1. Make a list of what you really want in life.
Coaching works best when you have clear goals that are based on your needs and values. If you’re not sure what your goals should be, discuss them with the coach during the call.
2. Get to know yourself with more depth.
Working with a sensitive and empathetic coach is a healthy way to grow. Most clients hire a coach to accomplish several specific goals and much of the time and focus is on these goals. Yet, with coaching, don’t be surprised if you discover new parts of yourself or if you find your goals adjusting to who you really are. This discovery process is natural, so you needn’t rush it, just realize it will likely happen. Accelerated personal and professional growth is the hallmark of being coached.
3. Double your level of willingness.
Part of working with a coach is that they will ask a lot of you. It helps to be willing to experiment with fresh approaches and be open to redesign the parts of your life that you are able to right now. This will enable you to more easily reach your goals and live an integrated and fulfilled personal and professional life. You will learn to use the gifts you have to enjoy life as it was meant to be enjoyed. And before this sounds like a Hallmark card, let me tell you the kind of things a coach needs you willing to do:
- Change your behaviour, a lot
- Raise your personal standards to be very high
- Remove all sources of stress in your life
- Redesign how you spend your time
- Set goals that are much, much bigger
- Look again at the assumptions/decisions you’ve made
- Start telling the absolute truth
- Start treating people much, much better
- Stop tolerating or suffering about your life
- Get the support you need to handle a problem
- Experiment and try new things
Please make a list of the ten things you are now willing to do or change.
4. Come to your Coaching Call prepared, with an agenda.
Have a written list of things you want to share and discuss. On this list include such things as:
- Successes and wins that you’ve had during the week
- Report on any assigned tasks you may have completed
- Problems you faced, and how you handled them
- Advice you want from me re: a situation
- What you’re currently working on and how it’s going
- New skills you want to develop
- Insights, “ahas” and new awareness that excites you
- Strategies you wish to develop
5. Enjoy the call
Even if it feels like work, feel free to enjoy the call. After several sessions, you may find that you and the coach take a little time to catch up on those parts of our life that mean a lot to you. You might also want to share something personal and confidential.
Coaching calls aren’t gabfests, but they are enjoyable, for both parties. Coaching doesn’t need to be intense effort for you to produce the miracles you know are possible. Feel free to set the tone of the calls.
6. Keep yourself well between sessions.
Coaching can require energy: emotionally, intellectually and physically. Given this, it is advisable for you to take extraordinary care of your well being while being coached. Only you know what this looks like. The place to start is to develop a list of 10 Daily Habits which keep you well. Some of the habits my clients have developed into a routine are:
- Reducing fat intake
- Listening to great music
- Eating more vegetables
- Going to a 12-step meeting
- Handling a complaint
- Eliminating caffeine/drugs
- Starting to be early
- Cutting out sugar abuse
- Telling the truth
- Writing in a journal
7. Complete any assigned tasks the coach has asked you to do
This is not homework, like in grade school. These are tasks, actions, results or changes that you are telling yourself (and your coach) that you will do your best to complete before your next call. You must apply yourself and use the assigned tasks to help you achieve your personal and business goals.
The coach will provide a high degree of professionalism, integrity, honesty and personal wisdom. They offer recommendations, motivation, and encouragement to people who would like to gain mastery over their life! Please be advised that they are not working as a Counselor or Medical Advisor. The coach disclaims any and all liability to anyone who acts or relies upon the information given in my material, sessions or presentations.
Your coach agrees to hold all content of the sessions completely confidential.