There’s Something I Need to Say to You!

If you look at your calendar for the year you will see that at some point in our history, it was decided that we should collectively designate some days to say or do something special for special people in our lives. In February there is a day to consider how lucky you are to have someone special that you love in your life. In May there is a day to acknowledge our mothers for the fact we are alive and all they have done to get us to where we are. In June we have a chance to tell our fathers how we feel about them. 

I personally love those days. If you need to be reminded to show appreciation for the special people in your life, those days are there for you. If you use those days to accentuate what you regularly express, that is even better. 

What we appreciate, appreciates! What we appreciate goes up in value! 

Our words can literally make things go up in value! In the calendar there are 365 days where we can make this happen.  

If my parents were alive, they would be 108 and 107 years old this year. In their era, telling people how you felt about them was rare. It seems to me that they worked hard to make sure we had clothes and food. They certainly did a lot for all the kids, but love wasn’t expressed in words for a very long time. I remember later in their lives when my Dad would reluctantly give in to being hugged and hearing how I felt about him. He then became a hugger who would tell me how he felt about me. 

I am pretty sure that when he did that, I went up in value. 

There’s Something I Need to Say to You! 

In many ways, I am who I am because of you! You truly have made a difference in my world. I watch you. I see what you do to improve the lives of so many people. I watch how you behave. I watch how you interact with others and leave your influence wherever you go. Wherever you go, the place is better for having your presence. You lift people up and help them to see who they can be and what they can accomplish. You don’t need to be in the spotlight. You are thrilled to have your light shine on others. 

I love to watch you create. You make magic out of nothing. Your canvas could be a book, a song, a meal, an experience, or a simple conversation. You have a special ability to take something everyone sees and help them see it differently. You are a visionary, a dreamer, and a playful soul. 

I love how consistent you are. You do what you say you are going to do and with you, trust is never in doubt. 

You make me laugh! Thank you for that! 

You are serious and you are silly. You are gregarious and you are quiet. You are confident and you are vulnerable. You are generous at giving and receiving. You are driven and lazy. You can be the star of the show or a background performer. 

One of the ways I watch you is by watching the people you have influenced. I see you in them. I see your impact. I see your thinking. I see your passion. I see your standards. I see your smile. 

I love your authenticity. You are truly you. It appears to me that you have never tried to be like others or how others might think you should be. The way you own who you are, inspires others to own who they are. 

I appreciate who you are, but I also need to acknowledge what you do. You do so much! You have done so much for me. I hope I have thanked you enough for all you have done for me. If you have ever felt unappreciated by me, I would consider that to be one of my greatest failures. Thank you, thank you, thank you for all you do and all you are. 

The last thing I would like to express to you is what I want for you. I want you have an Extraordinary Life. I want you have a life full of joy, love, and purpose. I want you to dream brilliant dreams and spend your days bringing them to fruition. I am hoping that a generous number of those days will include me. I want you to enjoy great happiness, health, and wealth. My greatest wish is that you just keep being the Extraordinary You. 

Many of you who read this will know that I am talking about you. If you are reading this and I have never met you, there is still a good chance that many of the things I wrote apply to you. 

Shelley MacDougall and I have had thousands of coaching sessions over a combined 42 years of coaching after our club careers. We have seen what people are able to do when they are getting their needs met. We have also observed that almost everyone that we have worked with needs to know that other people think they are okay. People typically identify one of these words as something they need. They need to be loved, liked, appreciated, recognized, respected, acknowledged, cared for, seen, applauded, celebrated—when they get their needs met, they go up in value. Their energy increases, their creativity increases, their productivity increases and simply they are closer to accessing their best. 

Simply put, your words are powerful! The words on the cards for those special days can be powerful but not as powerful as the one’s you choose to say to the person that hears you say, “There Is Something I Need to Say to You!”